Woman Pressured to Host Christmas for Ex-Husband and His 12 Other Kids, Sparking Viral Reddit Debate

Should you host a Christmas party for your ex-husband... and all of his children from other affairs? A woman's dilemma, posted on Reddit, is igniting a massive online debate about family obligations and post-divorce boundaries. Her ex-in-laws are pushing for a 'family reunion,' but she’s standing firm to protect her own peace five years after their split.

A 5-Year Divorce and 14 Children

According to Reddit user u/Caryzzys, she divorced her husband five years ago due to his numerous affairs. Their two children, now 11 and 9, live with her, while their father sees them about once a month. Since the divorce, the ex-husband has reportedly fathered at least five more kids with different women, bringing his total number of children to 14. The original poster reasonably believes his life and his problems are no longer her concern.

The Pressure of a 'Family' Holiday

The conflict began as Christmas approached. While she maintains a good relationship with her ex-in-laws for her children's sake, they recently made an unusual request: host a Christmas party for the 'whole family,' including her ex and his numerous offspring. They even offered to buy a turkey as a peace offering. The woman repeatedly refused, explaining she didn't want the holiday ruined by the tension between her and her ex. When her in-laws persisted, she took to the internet for advice.

Commenters overwhelmingly sided with her. One user wisely wrote, "You are not obligated to do anything but protect your peace and your children." Many argued that if the grandparents wanted a family get-together, they should host it themselves. Speaking to Bored Panda, psychologist Irina Matveeva commented, "if, as the author says, she still harbors some bad feelings toward her ex-husband, then it's best to refrain from gathering at one table at all. At least then the holiday won't be marred by any fights."